High school is a time that a person will remember forever and a special someone can greatly enhance your enjoyment of the high school experience.
That other person, that can give you butterflies just by getting caught in the corner of your eye, can change your whole perspective and even the opportunity to achieve genuine happiness. When two people are together in high school, they start to realize they no longer have the dreaded feeling of being alone. Even if they are not with the one person that they want to be with all of the time, they know they are being thought of and cared for just as much. Each person has that need to see each other so bad, that they will do almost anything for even a moment of time together. The young couple will always have each other to keep them company. No high school student wants to feel alone, so this companionship gives a person the cozy feeling of warmth and belonging.
A loyal and caring boyfriend or girlfriend is that one person who is the keeper of all your secrets. You tell them anything and they always seem to know the perfect thing to say. When you need someone to laugh with, cry on, yell at, or sit and say nothing with, you will know exactly who to go to. A significant other won’t care what you two are doing, as long as you are together.
No matter what you spend your time doing, a thoughtful boyfriend or girlfriend will be supportive in every way possible. Your special someone will be cheering for you and will always be proud to call you theirs.
At many times a girlfriend or boyfriend can be a huge distraction, but when you take a step back and realize the emotional benefits of being in a relationship outweigh the potential negative effects.
While dating and having relationships are a part of a high school student’s life and a part of becoming a mature young adult, there are many downsides to having a serious boyfriend or girlfriend during your high school career.
We are in high school to learn. Our sights should be set on our futures, whether that means preparing ourselves for college or heading straight into a profession. When one is in a serious relationship these goals are often put aside and the focus on academic success becomes secondary. To put it bluntly, relationships are a distraction.
Students today are faced with numerous obligations, which compete for their time. These can include athletics, volunteer work, or a variety of extracurricular activities ranging from music, dance, and drama to the pursuit of outstanding academic achievement. When students focus their time and energy solely on one person, they often neglect their relationships with others who are important to them.
For example, if a teenager finds themself in a serious relationship against the advice of their parents, they may find it necessary to betray the trust of their parents in order to maintain this romance. Many friendships have suffered at the hands of a serious new partnership, which can lead to the abandonment of what once may have been a strong bond between two friends.
Many high schoolers mistakenly believe that the person they meet freshman year is “the one,” however teenagers have so much growing up to do. Our high school sweethearts will more than likely not be our long term partners in life. Statistically only five percent of high school relationships lead to marriage, and the success rate of these marriages is very low.
Wisdom would advise us to use our time here at Newport Harbor High to have fun exploring dating relationships, but not to neglect responsibilities or put our lives on hold for our temporary partners. We should use these experiences as an opportunity to learn about ourselves and others, and to set ourselves up for success in the future both academically and personally.